homosexuality

This video makes me cry. Even though I have only ever known one gay gentleman in my life, and don't have any contact with him anymore, I am a HUGE advocate for gay-rights.

Imagine a world wherein it is just assumed that you will have a crush on, date, fall in love with, and marry someone of your same gender. That's the way your entire family is, that's the way all of your friends are, and that's the way everyone you know is, has been, and will be forever. But you don't like girls (assume you are a girl), you like guys. You have liked guys for as long as you can remember. You remember your first crush on a guy and how you were so sad to see him flirting with another guy. In all your classes you are taught about homosexual relationships and how that is the normal and right way to do things, but you just flat out don't like girls. Now that you are in college, and all of your friends are falling in love with the girl or guy of their dreams and planning their wedding and their lives, you still haven't found a guy that likes girls, and you fear that you will never find one. Even if you do, he would have to come out as a hetero to his friends, co-workers, and family. Then you two wouldn't even be allowed to marry in most states, and your relationship would be deemed "deviant". Your life with this man, should you ever find him, would be a tough one dogged by laughs, jeers, hazing, and harassment. And not just for you and your man, but also for your children if you ever have them. They would be the kids of hetero's and hetero's are weird, gross, and unnatural.

That is the world that most LBGTQ people live in and it sucks.

I don't understand how people can look at others and say, "Your type of love is wrong, and evil. My type of love is the only kind that is real and right." It makes me mad to see these lovely people pushed to suicide, or relationships with people they don't truly love. My heartbreaks for anyone who feels that they are second rate.

We tell children to not judge others by their cover, and to like people for who they are on the inside, despite their outside. Well, isn't saying, "You can't love or marry that person because their genitals are exactly like yours," doing the EXACT opposite of that statement.

I support gay rights and believe that they are some of the strongest and bravest people out there to stand up for themselves.

{ps- don't post anything derogatory or i'll block you from commenting, thanks}

how to be a good girlfriend

Over the course of my life I have had many relationships but none have lasted longer than four months. As of today I have been dating my current boyfriend for seven months, two weeks, and two days and I'm scared. Yeah, that's right, scared. I have never been this deep in a relationship or in love and I'm so terrified for when the ending will come. And one way or another it will come, either we'll break up or we'll get married and then when we get old one of us will die first. I don't want this relationship to end.

Because I'm so scared that this is going to end, I tend to become clingy and lose confidence in the relationship and in myself as the target of his love. Because of this lack of confidence I start to watch what I do and say and I turn into someone I don't recognize. Both my current boyfriend and most recent ex have told me that they wish they knew where the girl they originally fell in love with went...

How do I find my confidence again? How do I become a good long term girlfriend?

obsession

I have an obsession with weddings, in a bad way. There, I admit it. I am obsessed with weddings! And engagements, and marriages, and divorce, and relationships!! And this isn't an obsession wherein I have already booked my venue, bought my dress, picked a band, and have a photographer on standby while I wait for my true love. No, this is an obsession wherein I scour Facebook for changes in relationship status, engagement and wedding pictures, and frequently comment, out loud for anyone within earshot to hear, "Why the hell do people get married so young?!," all whilst I bemoan my singleness.

After having two almost-engagements I am so tired of watching my peers tying the knot and looking so happy that it makes me sick. I'm happy for them, sure, but I'm also jealous to the point of madness. And it's not even that I want to have a wedding. My sister says that if she had the money she would just rent grooms and throw a wedding for herself every few years; me, I'm not like that. I want a best friend who will always be there, a man to have on call for cuddling, a person to fight with, and make with up, a man to build a life and home with, someone to come home to and go to bed with. If pressed to it, I would gladly give up the whole wedding/reception/honeymoon package if it meant that I got to put a ring on my love's finger and call us husband and wife.

I am currently dating, in mine and my siblings opinion, the perfect man for me. He is kind, caring, funny, nerdy, intelligent, capable of deep conversations while watch The Simpsons, he loves animals (dogs, cats, and chickens particularly) and most importantly, he's in love with me. There are so many levels on which we match so well! We certainly have our differences for sure but they aren't so big that I have to change myself to make it work. I love him and yes, I want to marry him.

I want him to put a ring on my finger as a sign to the world that there isn't anyone else he's rather be with. I want to move into a small married-college student apartment with him and have to scrape to make ends meet; I want to come home to him every night. I want to go with him when he goes out of state to study Astrophysics and I want to settle down in Logan-type town were he will be a teacher and I will be a therapist. I want to have babies with this man and watch as my parents transform into kick-ass grandparents, and we transform into what-the-hell-are-we-doing parents. I want to raise my babies, and teach them to drive and to have respect for other people as well as Mother Earth and so many other things. And I know that this man would make a great, if not perfect, partner in that adventure.

Yes, I'm 21, just a little kid. And yes, I have a very long life ahead of me. And yes, I very often say "why the hell do people get married so young?" but even though I can't answer for those scores of boys and girls going to the chapel, or temple, I can answer for myself in a very cliched way, "Because when you find the one you want to build a life with, you want to start building it right away."

why get married?

What is a good reason to get married?

Because you love that person?
Because that person is your best friend?
Because you want to have sex with that person?
Because you want to have children with that person?
Because that person may be your last shot a marriage?
Because you can't imagine life without that person?
Because that person makes you happy?
Because that person inspires you to be better?
Because you love that persons family?
Because you want to have a wedding?
Because your religion says you have to?
Because your parents tell you to?
Because you need someone?
Because that person completes you?
Because you want to grow old with that person?

Why do people get married?

love and expectations

It has been said that when you love someone you should love and accept all of them, faults and perfections. Does that mean that if there is something that bothers you about the person you should either learn to live with it or break up with them? Is it wrong to think that it's okay to change for someone if the change is in a positive direction? Of course that brings in the ambivalence of "a positive direction." That is to say that what is a positive direction for me could be seen as a negative direction for another person. So... what do you think?